Hey parents, this is for you. What means more to you, image or happiness? You want the biggest house on the best street in the best suburb. You want the marque car, and it just has to shine, shine, shine. You want to be seen in the right places with the right people. That is… Read More Image versus happiness
Oh dominant male, I may admire your strength now may you admire mine. I am not your property, I am not a thing. I am not a doll to dress as you please, nor a token, a decorative item to wear proudly on your sleeve. You do not have the right to change me, to… Read More Dear dominant male
What am I? A being noted as human. I physically exist. I feel, oh so much. But sometimes I am just a vacant hole. I look like a woman; a short, dumpy, clumsy, grey one – but I am a woman. Of sorts. A woman who doesn’t understand women, who cannot entirely identify with them.… Read More What am I?
Stop being so superficial Go buy yourself a doll My looks are not me They are not my mind Nor my heart They are not reflective of my personality My looks do not make you less of a man Or less admired I am not a token I am not a handbag I am not… Read More Identity distortion 3: The influence of superficial men
For me, career expectations were also a significant cause of my identity disturbance. I am a naturally shy, creative person – very much into art and nature. I love painting, drawing, sculpting and creating things and this creativity seems to be something many BPD people have. I guess you need to be sensitive to create… Read More Identity distortion 2: Parental career expectations
When they say that BPD can be caused by a combination of genetic sensitivity coupled with trauma, abuse or inconsistent parenting, I think it’s important to think about the role of parents in this. Let us remove abuse from the equation for the moment and consider parental influence as a separate issue. Parenting has a… Read More Identity distortion 1: Parental influence
I am finding this socialising thing a tough challenge on so many levels. How do you socialise when you have BPD? To socialise successfully, you need a clear identity. Don’t you? A strong sense of self? Or is that just me? One of my warped perceptions? How do I know? What is real and what… Read More Identity distortion and socialising issues
Well if you are into the cold, harsh, clinical definitions check out the official diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder below. Doesn’t really sound that great from a lay person’s perspective, does it? And trust me, as a sufferer it’s horrible to recognise yourself in this. The diagnostic criteria are so dehumanising, and as someone… Read More Borderline Personality Disorder: What is it?