Who is my enemy? My enemy is within. TRIGGER WARNING – Mentions of self-harm and suicidality. When I first came out and told people I had BPD, everyone was surprised. Because I am seen as strong. I am seen as a coper. I am seen as capable. I have always been able to stand up… Read More Learning to love your enemy
How do you trust in fate? This is a big question. Believing in fate. I am at a point in my life where somehow, I need to do this. I need to take a leap of faith, not only is doing that a seemingly impossible task but which direction should I choose? It is a… Read More How do you trust in fate?
Dear Daddy Did you know that you will always be my hero? Men will come, and men will go, but you my dearest most wonderful daddy, you will always be there for me and I for you. So Daddy, don’t just love me; please guide me. For though I am now and always will be… Read More Dear wonderful, protective Daddy
Loneliness. As anyone with BPD will tell you, loneliness is a big issue. Due to the difference in the way we perceive the world, we always feel alone in a crowd. This is compounded by the fact that we love so much. As previously mentioned here, we know we cannot receive the same level of… Read More Healing: Alleviating loneliness
Anyone who is undergoing therapy or treatment for anxiety will know this, but for people around us this is what we need to do and why. If you can learn this, you may be able to help someone through an anxious moment. When our minds start to spin out of control, we need to get… Read More How to ground yourself during a moment of anxiety
Self-care has a different meaning to everybody. For some it is indulging in a treat; having a manicure; a massage; a day at the spa; a day of fishing, or taking time out to do something personally rewarding. For those with a mental health issue, self-care is something far more fundamental. It is remembering to… Read More What is self-care and how do we achieve it?
Caring for ourselves is a difficult task. At the best of times, we are all over the place emotionally, but as we come out of a crisis and take the hard road toward recovery, we need people around us who can care, guide, support and validate us and our efforts. At this critical juncture (where… Read More Caring for us as we learn to care for ourselves
I am fifty-one. I thought I was a grown up. Suddenly, I am growing up all over again. Everything I thought I was has to be fixed. The little person deep inside that didn’t get what she needed when growing up, now needs to be recognised and nurtured and taught all the things a little… Read More Healing: Growing up all over again
Self-esteem. How do you build self-esteem when you don’t have any because long-term trauma has removed your sense of identity? Pretty tough to do eh? When my GP Counsellor first started to help me, she gave me this worksheet for homework. It was a worksheet apparently designed for children – it has happy bouncing graphics… Read More How to build self-esteem from scratch
Gratitude is a science. Did you know that? It’s not New Age hippie bunkum. Reflecting on gratitude and feeling gratitude, then expressing it repairs the neural network. Yep seriously. It’s proven to heal … ask Mr Google because if I add links here, there will be pages and pages. If you meditate on gratitude, and… Read More The importance of gratitude in healing