Who is my enemy? My enemy is within. TRIGGER WARNING – Mentions of self-harm and suicidality. When I first came out and told people I had BPD, everyone was surprised. Because I am seen as strong. I am seen as a coper. I am seen as capable. I have always been able to stand up… Read More Learning to love your enemy
My ears, my brain just want to explode. Auditory sensitivity. Human sound. My brain is just fritz, fritz, fritz. It has started. Preparation work for vintage. The time of year when a steady stream of trucks hurtle down the main road. You can hear them coming from miles away; roaring, rattling, banging. Everything shakes. Constant… Read More Auditory sensitivity
How do you trust in fate? This is a big question. Believing in fate. I am at a point in my life where somehow, I need to do this. I need to take a leap of faith, not only is doing that a seemingly impossible task but which direction should I choose? It is a… Read More How do you trust in fate?
Dear Daddy Did you know that you will always be my hero? Men will come, and men will go, but you my dearest most wonderful daddy, you will always be there for me and I for you. So Daddy, don’t just love me; please guide me. For though I am now and always will be… Read More Dear wonderful, protective Daddy
Loneliness. As anyone with BPD will tell you, loneliness is a big issue. Due to the difference in the way we perceive the world, we always feel alone in a crowd. This is compounded by the fact that we love so much. As previously mentioned here, we know we cannot receive the same level of… Read More Healing: Alleviating loneliness
Black and white that’s what I am. Shades of grey are something you do with a pencil. They are not reality. They are not people. I am judge, jury and executioner. In black and white lies judgement. The judgement of others and judgement of self. And my black and white tells me my judgement is… Read More Black and white perceptions and the emergence of judgement
Oh dominant male, I may admire your strength now may you admire mine. I am not your property, I am not a thing. I am not a doll to dress as you please, nor a token, a decorative item to wear proudly on your sleeve. You do not have the right to change me, to… Read More Dear dominant male
Anyone who is undergoing therapy or treatment for anxiety will know this, but for people around us this is what we need to do and why. If you can learn this, you may be able to help someone through an anxious moment. When our minds start to spin out of control, we need to get… Read More How to ground yourself during a moment of anxiety
Self-care has a different meaning to everybody. For some it is indulging in a treat; having a manicure; a massage; a day at the spa; a day of fishing, or taking time out to do something personally rewarding. For those with a mental health issue, self-care is something far more fundamental. It is remembering to… Read More What is self-care and how do we achieve it?
Communication is a big issue for people with BPD as we tend to rely more strongly on non-verbal. So the use of ‘spokespeople’ becomes a huge issue indeed. The below examples are not meant with malice, but are designed to show the confused and warped perception filters of the sensitive BPD brain and how simple… Read More Inadvertent invalidation and the importance of direct communication