BPD, Mental health

Resistance

They say resistance is futile but is it? Resistance also wins wars. So who will win my war? Do I capitulate or continue my resistance? I’m told my resistance is unhealthy, but I don’t care. Am I a coward to resist ‘normality’? Am I a coward for running away from what every person apparently needs?… Read More Resistance

BPD, Mental health, The Now - Healing

Progress

Progress. It is slow, and sometimes I don’t see it, but I am making progress. Several situations have arisen over the last few stressful weeks that previously would have floored me. They haven’t. What is more, my reaction to adverse stimuli is changing. In the past, if something upset me or someone hurt me I… Read More Progress

BPD, Mental health, The Past - Causes and Effects

Black and white perceptions and the emergence of judgement

Black and white that’s what I am. Shades of grey are something you do with a pencil. They are not reality. They are not people. I am judge, jury and executioner. In black and white lies judgement. The judgement of others and judgement of self. And my black and white tells me my judgement is… Read More Black and white perceptions and the emergence of judgement

BPD, The Past - Causes and Effects

Inadvertent invalidation and the importance of direct communication

Communication is a big issue for people with BPD as we tend to rely more strongly on non-verbal. So the use of ‘spokespeople’ becomes a huge issue indeed. The below examples are not meant with malice, but are designed to show the confused and warped perception filters of the sensitive BPD brain and how simple… Read More Inadvertent invalidation and the importance of direct communication